Hi!
I just got home from school. Well, actually I'm at my older sister's house. She takes me to school on Tues. so I stay at her house from Monday evening to Wednesday afternoon, then she drops me off at home.
Okay, so today in my first class the teacher gave us an assignment to come up with a brief synopsis using 3 categories for story-writing she provided for us.
When it was time to discuss, this guy (who I realized may be shy or have some kind of nervousness behavior) decided to talk about he's story. But halfway through he started to stammer and seemed quite embarrassed. He would lower his head and place his hand on his head. He told the teacher to just pass him, but the teacher tried to encourage him to continue, he tried, but gave up again and told the teacher to go to someone else.
I asked him what he had written down (because he had some stuff written down) and that got him talking again. He started to explain what he wrote and was finally able to finish telling us the story. I think I understand what happened. His story wasn't completely in fine details, and I guess he tried to wing it and it didn't go so well.
Anyways I'm glad he didn't give up.
Honestly if you have an idea just give it a try and talk to someone about it. If they don't like it, big whoop. Who cares? However, I guess you would say some people care.
Here's what I find to be helpful. Rather than just tossing someone's idea aside, ask a question about it. Mention what you liked first, and then give some feedback. Just straight up telling a person it sucks isn't a real answer lol It's honesty in a way that it seems you want to make the person feel bad.
If something is bad, you don't have to up say so.
I don't think everyone will be this way. Which is cool. But in my eyes, I would definitely like people to feel comfortable when they speak. School should be a great environment where a person can speak and express themselves.
The fact that everyone just sat in silences as he suffered like that had to be a bit tough.
I've never been completely embarrassed to speak my mind, and even if I was I still spoke it regardless of what people thought. Knowing that it could cause a person to not want to speak is what made me try to get him talking again. I would really like for all my classmates to feel at least a bit comfortable and to not feel intimidated. For the most part, all the other students seem to be friendly, which is good.
Y'know, dealing with situations like this on my own, where if I said something people would criticize what I said or try to shot down what I said (which usually didn't work lol) it made me take a look at that and say "i will treat a person different than how I've been treated", which is with respect. Which is by listening. Which is by lending a hand when I can.
It's to test myself. In honestly I don't look for much in return from that person but a simple acknowledgement that there are people who care and that the world isn't a place filled with horrible people.
For example, it's tough living with my mom. She's been quite negative lately. It's tough for me because being in those situations take a toll on me. But I try to be understanding. And simply the only thing I wish of her is that she simply treat me like another human being rather than some verbal abusing dummy. In situations like that I try to avoid. I know they are no good for me. What use to they provide for me?
But for people, not including my immediate family, I feel like I can tolerate a lot more from them as long at that aren't treating me like crap just for the heck of it.
Anyways, as I said, I would like to treat people the opposite of the negative ways I've been treated. Honestly it doesn't feel unnatural for me. Of course I still have my bad mood.
So I'd like to say that although I can't speak for everyone in the world, there are people who do not mind hearing what you have to say. I'm sure there definitely is. There are billions of people on this Earth, so saying that not one person would like to hear what you say is over-exaggerating and a bit clinical of yourself.
You are just as special as anyone else. But even if I told you this, it won't mean anything until you believe it.
So! I have one assignment for you if you feel this way, for one day (a week if you're daring), just don't give up. If there is something new you would like to try, just go for it! Don't give up if you fail.
And if you do fail, try it again. Understand that something new, is just that: NEW. It takes time to understand it. Just like being a baby and learning to walk takes time. So will anything new. ^^
I believe you can do it!
Good luck!
Mon
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