I've been out of high school for 4 years(well actually 5)! I think that's amazing~
I graduated in 2008. I was suppose to be done with college by now, but honestly I'm not in a rush.
Anyways, I started to think back on the people I would talk to.
I think I didn't really have any standards when it came to the kind of people I talked to because I enjoy talking to anyone. However, I did have one little rule: don't talk badly about other people in my presence.
I don't care if they did it when I wasn't around. That's them, but I really can't take people talking about other people behind their back.
For example, I find it okay if you're trying to get something off your chest that's bothering you. But it's a different story if the person is bad-mouthing someone just to be doing it. Such as bad-mouthing someone's clothes or whatever. That's not cool. I find that very offensive.
I've known people like that. I didn't dislike them as a person, but I disliked what they did or said and brought it to their attention. If they weren't willing to stop doing that when I'm around, I just left. Why hang around that?
Anyways, the reason I'm saying this is because in high school I remember there were a few times a person would come to me and say "why do you hang out with (person's name), don't you know she (it was usually girls referring to girl's I hung out with) does this/that?" and I would just look at them and say "and your point?"
I guess some people figure this: if you hang out with someone who does something that is considered wrong/bad, you are the same. I've come to understand this might be some people's mentality, but that was not the case. For some strange reason (I don't think it's so strange), I talked to the people with troubling backgrounds, or personal issues. I think I was more carefree in high school (especially my last year, I started to grow a backbone) and so I didn't mind people talking to me about their problems. And those people were not unintelligent, I thought they were very smart people. They just could've made better choices.
But is it worth pushing someone to the side because they made a few bad choices? The people i knew weren't like falling deeper into their problems, they were trying to get over them. And I wanted to be there to support them. Or if I felt they were going to make a choice that could hurt them, I would say so.
I can't say I thought the people who asked me why I'm hanging out with a certain person was wrong, but I did think it was a little shallow based on what I thought they meant. However, I could have been wrong. And I think they were asking out of curiosity because they may have thought the people I associated with were strange or didn't have anything interesting about them.
Well, this is one memory. And I think it's a bit funny.
Also, I've had a few issues with misunderstanding certain people. It goes along with the typical assumption or preconceived notion based on past experiences. And sometimes, that's certainly not the case.
I'll keep repeating this to myself until I truly believe it.
An experience was an experience for you to either gain something or lose something (release)I believe. When new experiences present themselves, they are new experience, not old experience. What makes them seem old is your perception of them.I can't say the same for humans.
For example, rain is rain. If it rained today, and then rained a few weeks later, it isn't the same rain that fell from the sky before, it's new rain.
With people that's a different story. It's tough trying to understand everyone, mainly because their real intention is deep inside, and unless they will be truly honest with you, than I can't guarantee it (their intention) will make much sense.
For example, I saw this video this guy made about Male honesty. He says that guys lie because they don't want to hear a woman's mouth about what they said. In other words, if a guy says something and a lady disagree with it, he may not hear the end of it.
His intentions may not have been to harm or hurt the lady, but it came out that way. But maybe if she would listen and hear him out, she would understand why he came up with his theory. And honestly it seems everyone has come about their beliefs from past experiences. But throw something different their way and it's impossible to deal with.
I guess this is why I've come across something a few time that says take things as they come at you. We can't predict the future. We can't predict a person....Hm...I would say "some can predict the future", but things could happen that could change that future. This is why I don't disbelieve people who say "this will happen", I mean, who knows, they could have seen something.
All in all, I think it's best to just try to accept people who they are.And if they don't fit you, don't pay them any mind. It's really not worth bashing a person because you don't agree with them.
Hm....I wonder if I'm getting a bit better at becoming tactful lol probably not.
Anyways, I didn't share many of my high school memories. But when I think back I've met some pretty neat people. But most of the people I talked to were adults. With them I felt like I could have a good conversation. Some high schoolers worried and talked about pointless stuff. Like boys, or dating or going out to party. Okay, maybe it's not pointless, but those kinds of things aren't interesting to me.
Because my dancing is bad lol I feel it would be pointless for me to go to a bar or something unless it's to drink or something or to hang out with friends. But being a high school student, why should I be doing that? I'm in high school!!
Oh! And also, in high school I wasn't even concerned about getting my diploma. I was just going just to go. I think high school sucked lol I felt like I was taking a bunch of classes that would in no way help me out in life. And also because I read books on my own free will, I definitely felt like it was pointless. Go home, read a book. Go to school, read a book and take a test about what I read. :/ It's like, why are you testing me? I stored that stuff in my deep memory I don't remember that crap anymore! lol
Hm...y'know, I don't remember the first book I read. But I do remember reading books about cat birth and hand painting in elementary school. I remember the other kids would laugh and point at the cat having birth in the books....now that I think about it, they actually had a pretty explicit book about cat birthing in an elementary school lol I didn't think anything of it at the time. It was just a cat with kittens to me.
Anyways, that's all for now. I'm trying to relax my mind. But it's kind of tough. I really want to work on something, but I know I need to relax.
Mon
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