Generalizing

Hiiiii~~

So the introduction is done! Yay~~

Now I will talk about something that's been on my mind recently. Categorizing and generalizing.

I guess it's a way to keep  things in order. That's understandable.  It never bothered me before until one day while sitting in Psychology class, I looked at all the classifications that were in the book. The teacher mentioned something and suddenly I thought "why?? Why is it like that?"

Then I thought "I won't do that! It seems cruel." <---maybe I didn't think that haha

So, what do I mean by this. I'll give you an example. "Your friends."

It seems simple. But think, who are your friends in comparison to the rest of the world. They are separate. In Japanese there are actually words that a person says in order to speak about someone in their "in-group" and someone in their "out-group". It's like segregation.

I didn't want to say "my friend" that's possessive. I also feel when a person says "That's MY friend." It's like saying "My Friend, and you're not one."

Maybe it's just me, but suddenly this is what I was thinking. I was speaking with someone I know who is from China. And she asked me "am I your friend?" I told her "You are a close person to me." she wondered why I didn't say "friend", and I explained to her, what I just typed above.

That's not to say I won't say "she's a friend of mines", because I know this is understood in everyday conversations. However, I wonder what other word I can say. I don't want to categorize people.

For me it's like the saying "A rose by any other name would smell just as sweet."

Which in  this situation I would say "A friend, which is called by anything else, would still be someone close to me." hahaha Um...I don't think that works.

What I'm trying to say is, I don't need a word to tell me if I'm close to someone or not. What we do for each other, what we say to each other, what we do to help one another, is enough for me.

A perfect example is a belief I've had since high school. When a guy would ask me out, I would feel strange. (yeah I know lol) I didn't want it to be that way. I want it to just come. I don't want it to be categorized as a relationship.

It's like stepping into a lake, and there are people watching, you turn to them and say "I am in the lake." Now they may not mind, but I would say "Um....okay....and?"

I would much rather fall into the relationship and say nothing at all. Let our hearts be the guide.

Something that catches me. Is I've heard arguments when a women would say "That man is mine! How is she gonna try to steal my man!?" When in reality, no one can actually posses another person. Especially if that person objects.

When that happens, there's not much you can do to stop them. They are their own person after all. With their own life. And you can't control them. In truth, I see this as true. It's harsh. However, you can manipulate them, blackmail them. Try to harm them. But what will this do for you. Force them back into your life? Does that really make you happy. Place yourself in their shoes and ask yourself "if someone did that to me...do they really love me??"

I won't judge you if you say "yes". So on this note, I end that portion of the blog.

Now, then, what should I say then? hahaha Well, I'm trying to figure that out for myself. This isn't for you to take seriously. These are just my thoughts. It's my issue not yours. I'm simply making statements and you don't have to do anything with them. Am I asking you to consider them? Nope *shakes head*

Nope nope nope. I'm not asking you to do anything. Once you read this, or while you're reading this and start to think or wonder, it's all in you now. It's your thoughts. You are considering on your own accord.

And this is why I question that huge question "why than, am I doing this? Why am I writing this? Why am I speaking any of this?"

I don't claim any position. But a simple being, a simple person, just writing. Sometimes speaking, normally, just like you. Sometimes speaking the same way I think. Just simply being.

I'm just simply being, and doing in my Beingness what I feel I would like to do.

Well hahaha am I trying to sound smart. Nope, by no means necessary. Hm....well, I think there may be one thing I could hope for. That would be for you to open your mind just a bit more and question. If you read something I wrote and you even question "what does she mean?" I would be happy with even that.

A question is one step closer to an answer. In my case, a question leads to a possibility which leads to another question, then to another possible answer, to which I question that answer. And this continues.

For what purpose? That's the frustrating thing hahaha I'm not sure.

I guess this is why some people don't question much. Sometimes things just don't have an answer. And the question is infinite. Without an answer ever.

But, I've come to understand, there is a reason for all. I simply believe it's beyond my comprehension.

Ahhhh~♥

And I'm happy now. hahaha

Well, I'll be back later with more thoughts.

Mon