Hardships

Playing the victim, is like giving into the game. 

Hardships are not very easy to get through right? Well, it can become easier with the a good state of mind.

I'll tell you about my experience. And since I've gotten through them, each and everyone, so can you! So never believe it's impossible. It's all about how you view the situation.

Take note, a situation, is just that "a situation". It's not good or bad until you say it is. Until you believe it is. This is why I don't like to generalize things. It takes away the "JUST BEING" nature of it.

So, in the past I use to play the "victim" role.

I seriously felt like teachers were picking on me. My peers were picking on me. I can count good times I've had in school, but the horrible experiences outnumbered the good.

I would whine and tell my mom. But she told me to "stop thinking everyone is out to get you." lol

Now, I understand expressing your feelings. But truly grab a true grasp on the situation.

Yeah, it as tough dealing with those situations. HOWEVER, it opened my eyes to see that I wasn't the victim, but the person who was trying to make me feel like one.

They are losing at their on game. If you pay them know mind, what exactly are they gaining from it??

A person can only gain something from another if the other person GIVES it to them.

That's in our freewill.

Fear is a an unlocked door into your domain.

When you fear, you allow. Access to what? Whatever you are allowing.

Well, I can't say that I'm %100 correct on this.

However, I do feel a situation can get the best of you if you allow it.

You see, I believe I have to learn to perseverance. So, while I'm saying this I'm speaking from my experience.

Yes! I know it can be very difficult. But think, once it's past, it's past. Think of it this way, imagine you getting past your hardship.

Think for a second. Think of a time when something was difficult. Now, it doesn't bother you very much because you've gotten past it (depending on the situation). But, see where you are now compared to where you were than.

Even if it's just a little, you've gained something. I believe with every hardship, we grow a little. Even if we make the same mistake again. That only means we have to become more aware of ourselves in accordance to the situation. Eventually you'll get it. But don't be so hard on yourself.

This is why I believe loving yourself is important. Treat yourself with patience. Know that you are not perfect and that you can do or fix anything from within. You have this power!

How about this, pretend there is a "you" on the inside. A greater you. And the you on the outside is a dear friend to this greater YOU.  For a good friend, would you tell them they can't do it? Or that they will lose? No, more than likely, you will try to understand them, and encourage them.

When the you on the outside faces a hardship, remember you are the greater YOU on the inside. See the situation from a higher point, from the greater YOU's point of view. Remember you are the friend here to encourage the outer you okay.

Also, if some people might think this is weird, or strange. Who cares. A lot of things were foreign to people in the past until it became popular lol

Also, they may very well consider using this technique when they reach a hardship.

Best of luck!
Mon