Before I just thought it was okay because it was their opinion. However, there's like no line. They just spit words out like fire, without regards to the other person's feelings. And that's where my problem lies.
For instance, if the person is a friend of mines, but they aren't around and someone starts talking about them like they know them but they don't, I would say "okay, that's enough." But it's not enough because they keep doing it anyways. Those are the kinds of people I feel would just bad mouth another behind their back.
But lately I thought to myself "if I know it's not true, why should I care?" The only thing that should matter is how I see the person, not how everyone else sees the person.
A perfect example of this is Beyonce and Jay-Z. I've read all kinds of comments about them (I'm gonna stop reading those comments, I don't know why they're tempting to read O__o), anyways without anyone bothering me, I think to myself that she looks happy with him, and they are married and still together. Obviously she sees something in him that she loves and she knows the guy more than any of these people out here would (by people out here, I mean people who do not know any TRUTH about him as a person). So in my mind I say that I wish them the best. And if they make some kind of blunder in public, I think it should show people that they are still human and make mistakes. >__> I just don't understand some people's perceptions sometimes. EVERYONE makes mistakes.
I think this goes back to the way a person was raised. What one person would find okay to do, another probably wouldn't. But how would it make the other person wrong if they don't know what the other person knows.
After taking ethics, and learning more about the Japanese culture it has opened my eyes that what some of us consider "common sense" isn't very common at all based on where a person grew up or was raised.
What we say is "different" is only different because we're not use to it.
I know I can't dispel this from the face of the earth, but I most certainly can ignore it or turn away from it, pay it no mind. It's like those negative thoughts that surface. We do have control over what we listen to, what we will believe, what we consider to be good or bad, healthy or not healthy. So I choose to just see things and gain my own perception on it.
Also, it's always easier to ask someone to elaborate, rather than to come up with our on notions of something. I've learned that sometimes we make take things the wrong way.
I've seriously come to understand my younger sister a bit more. We've had time were she or I had said something but it turns out it was misinterpreted. That can happen. No one is at fault though. It's just a simple mistake. And it does happen. So I feel that instead of guessing what the other person meant to say, just ask them.
I want my relationships to be like this. I want to understand the people I meet as who they are, not who I think they are.
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