Playing into someone else's ignorant behavior if almost like climbing your own fence to jump into a dog fight that had nothing to do with me.
Hi!
That thought just came to my mind, so I typed it. It made me chuckle. Hm...do I have issues like this? Hm...in the past I have situations where I felt the need to defend all of my thoughts if no one agreed. But lately I find it easier and easier to deal with. Just let what the other person say, just flow right past your face and right into the wall.
It's okay to take a stand for things that you are really passionate about. But only if you truly know what you're talking about. However, if the situation goes nowhere but back and fourth, I recommend just letting it be. Sometimes some people have a head of stone that even water couldn't break down.
Some people just feel like they're right about everything. Just let them have their glory. Personally, what makes me feel better in situations like this (because yes I do fee defeated at times like those) is to just think of the situation in a different light. When certain people behave a certain way I see a child in them. I stop being mad instantly and I would think "how would I deal with this situation with a child?"
For the most part, I think people become so annoyed that they can't control themselves. For instance, when I worked at the school I attended, there would always be the one older person who would get angry. They would sound very childish, but I would wonder how I could make things a little bit easier for them. I mean, why make it more difficult? In the end, we would end up talking and they would tell me about their day.
Once a lady wanted to fight another lady who she accused of stealing her print card. I just bought her another one. No use arguing about it. And if I had something to help the situation, why not use it.
However, sometimes certain things aren't that easy. Sometimes people get angry and want to just be rude and disruptive. These are the troublemakers. They are the ones who want to see what you're made of because, chances are, they are just bored and can't sit still.
I've had only one of these recently. But because I was working I was able to call security on him. I always tried to avoid doing something like that, but I know when enough is enough.
But when it comes to someone trying to tell you about who you are, and you know who you are, don't buy into it. When you are confident in yourself and you know who you are, it's easy to know when to correct someone, and when not too. Also, if you know who you are, I understand wanting to correct someone's perception of you, but at the end of the day ask yourself "do I want to be friend with this person?" because to me, that would be the only reason you'd want to give someone who you don't know, the time of day to explain anything about yourself.
That's what people do when they want to create a friendship. Some people just try to get under someone's skin. I'm use to hearing "it's because their insecure, don't let them bother you" but that statement is become overrated.
So I say, if you want to be a friend of that person, sure try to correct them, but if a person will give you that much trouble to just befriend them, why waste all that energy and effort on nothing.
Is my logic off? I'm not sure.
But I've certainly learned from those tough 4 years of high school that it's tough when you're stuck in a classroom with people who are just out to get you. To those people in situations like that, yes, I did the ditching thing. I told teachers and they did nothing but make the situation worse. It never got so extreme to physical bullying, but my advise to those dealing with situations like those, yes, if it's physical bullying, get away. You're no coward. It's your life that's being threatened. If it's verbal, it hurts all the same. But that's only if you believe what's being said. Don't! The people who say things about you don't know anything about you. And it's not worth getting violent either.
Understand that those things do make you stronger. I've been through the verbal abuse. It's no joke, I know. But if I can make it through, so can you. And that's what I want to stress. Yes we all have different levels of tolerance, but just keep trying your best. Find the best options for you, but don't ever let their words cause you to harm yourself.
You are special. You are lovely. Yes you may have flaws and you may not be like everyone else. But, I will say that I'm sure there are people out there just like me who like people who are different. I personally love those kinds of people! They are the flowers which paint our worlds.
You're an interesting person. Find yourself beyond what people think of you. Find the love in yourself. Find something about yourself you absolutely love! Find a hobby you enjoy. Join a club or do something you like. 9 times out of 10 you will find people who like that same thing. There ya go, an interest buddy!
When you feel like giving up, don't look down, look up. You'll find something new. Maybe even a bird that's finally learn to fly on it's own.
I believe the best thing a person could do is to try.
I don't expect people to be perfect. I know people have flaws. It's what you do with those flaws (not physical) that makes the difference. Don't let your flaws overthrow you. They are the "flaws" you are the person who control those things.
Mon
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