More on seeing with the beliefs (mind)

Hi!

Boooyyyyy do I have a new blog for you! Okay, it's not completely new, it's about viewing things in life. Why do I keep talking about this you ask. Well, it's very simple, what we view in life is very important to what we intend to do in life!  What we view can set motion to intentions. So I feel it's very important to discuss. From the moment we can see things in life as a baby we are constantly processing information. Also, I started reading an article which kind of ticked me off.

Well, I'll explain what it was about.

So there is this thing in the black community of not having an equal share, or equal rights, or things of this nature. This really REALLY bothers me. It also bothers me when they speak as if they've never picked up an English book, and yet they complain that they can't find a decent job.

Anyway, that's not the point (I'll probably make a blog about the things I've experienced when it comes to conversing with people who are more skin-oriented than they are with the bigger picture), the point is about why I allowed myself to get irritated, and then I'll move on to the blog.

Mainly I will get an idea to read something regardless of how ridiculous it may seem, or how I may feel about it. I do this because I'd like to gain a better understanding and try to put aside my own ideas about things. IN other words, I'd like to hear the other side speak.

So, I decided to do this as a way to become more tactful. Allow people to believe, think and feel what they like, as it's their life and they are free to live it as they please. I made this rule for myself as a way to ALLOW life for others. Yet, I still find myself wanting to scream at the top of my lungs "ARE YOU SERIOUS?" because there's a very large amount of questionable moments and words I've read and I have experienced in life.

I read this article in which someone was...well they had a question mark, but in a way it seems as if they were insinuating that white people are mean.

Honestly, this whole skin color thing is annoying. I know that there are some people who have moved past this, but there are still a huge handful of...well blacks who are still dividing themselves from others. This separation is no good, and in the end they'll likely just end up being upset. No matter how you look at it, things are moving in the direction where people will began to intermingle with each other regardless of skin color.

I'm also tried of hearing people say "We bleed the same color" lol It's a nice saying, but it's kind of worn our. If you really want to give an interesting speech, speak from the heart. Let your message be heard!

I've seen enough interracial relationships to understand that this is not a problem for some people. I'm all for whatever kind of relationships as long as the people are happy. I'm all for people being happy, but not at the expense that they deprive someone else of their happiness. I don't care if two white people are married, or two black people are married or two Asians are married or two Latinos are married, I just care about their happiness. If they treat each other right, it's not a crime. They aren't hurting anyone.

People look at the problems from history, the bad things, but what about the good that have come from it. Those people didn't fight so we can still make a big deal out of the problem they worked so hard to try to fix. Imagine (and I'm not sure if this is even a problem) if North and South America still waged war with one another. A bloody battle down the tube! Just for more people to kill themselves.

I expressed to my sister (very disappointed) that all the ignorant people will likely get rid of themselves. I really don't like calling people ignorant, but it's the only word I can think of that doesn't seem to harsh. I don't want to call them stupid or dumb, because I'm sure they contain some kind of sense. It's just they choose to want to lack knowledge and understanding. It's seriously by choice.

"*POINTS* How do you know its' by choice?! You're probably the idiot behind your stupid laptop typing away and calling me ignorant!!"

A choice is simply this: if you choose to wage war with someone over their skin color and calling them names, you are certainly choosing a negative and hateful action. This requires choice. You're choosing that action. If you're not than I think you seriously need to speak to someone about that.

I really don't like to speak like this, but I'm just seriously disappointed and ashamed that some people still feel this way. There's honestly nothing wrong with diversity. We can seriously learn a lot from each other. We need to stop thinking that we're either A. above others or B. below others. No. The difference is that some people work harder than others.

I'll give an example. Rich and poor. I became curious about this so I looked up a few answers, from rich people, about how feel about being rich. Seriously, they really seem like normal people. A few of them said they want to collect their own money based on their own accomplishment. Some people are born into wealth, others actually acquire it by making smart investments and budgeting their money properly.

Planning is key!

That being said, rich people do commit crimes as well! Because they have money does not mean they don't have problems too! The same holds true for any person of any skin color! Japan has a very low crime rate, but that doesn't mean they don't have crimes! Some people do crazy things.

It's not the problem of skin color, but the lack of not wanting to look beyond that and see that those biased ideas are ignorantly based on our own subjective perception.

Which finally brings me to the point of the blog lol

Skin color is something that is completely based on the sense of sight. If we had no eyesight we would likely be reliant on our sense of sound to determine if the person sounds good or bad to us. It then becomes a judgement of character.

Now, this is the important part: CHARACTER. Tear away sight and you can't rely on that.

Sight is a very great thing! If you believe in a creator or not, some of us were lucky to be born with it! Imagine, you could've been born without it. Some people would say "Well, I'd be happy! This world is nothing good to look at!" And even that statement is based on what you think you see, rather that what really is.

I'll give an example. Have you ever had someone start speaking to you and instantly you butt in, assuming that you knew what they were going to say before they even finished.....just to find out they weren't going to even say anything about it? Well, I have PLENTY of times.

So who am I to speak on something like this when I'm dealing with the same thing? Well, I'm a person who is aware of this habit and I'm working to improve that portion of myself.It's called SELF improvement for a reason. In the end, it really is the individual's choice to improve who they are.

Here's what I noticed happens as I continue my improvement journey (it's mainly just self-discovery, but whatever):

People notice these qualities and become happy!

They say "Well that's really nice of you!" and their mood is lifted, AND if they took anything from the situation, they may want to practice what I do and help someone else out. This is called the ripple effect. I've learned a few things from a friend of mines, she's very wise and she helped me a lot with understanding that I can't save the world, but I can definitely lend a hand!

I've finally figured out how. By doing just what I'm doing now. Being ME. When I'm who I am, people will meet me and come to either say "I like" or "I don't like", the ones who "like" will probably take something from our encounter. Seriously, I'm not looking for people to compliment me on my behavior, if they take something from our conversation or they learned something new, then I'm happy. Mainly because there was a shift.

A shift is very small sometimes, but over time it moves from one place to the next. Seriously, knowing this has helped me to not feel I have to keep jumping into every little problem, or want to intervene in everything little heated discussion between my mom and siblings. I do, however, observe the situation and wonder what might be the reason behind it.

You see, I'm slowly, but surely, shifting the way I view things. It's a little strange because I don't have very many worries, but my mind is not as cluttered.

Shifting...or better yet, I'll say considering, other things can open you up to other possibilities. Don't just toss all your beliefs away! You don't have to do this. Considering things is not about getting rid of who you are, it's taking something new into account. It's not just automatically believing, it's giving something a chance.

Sometimes we may be so stuck on the fact that we know, and we assume that we know, but honestly there's not just one way of knowing.

What I found to be interesting is that most of what we feel we know is a branch of the same tree. Yet, if we're so stuck clinging to one little leaf to allow ourselves to drift freely in the wind and see the tree, we're gonna miss the bigger picture.

Is this wrong? Absolutely not. But eventually you'll probably get bored and let go lol

So, the point of all of this?

Give things a chance. It may not be easy at first, but at least try to see things from another perspective. Speaking from experience, I know it's not easy. I still have a tough time with doing this.

I will give a bit of advice. If something just isn't for you, then let it go and move on with your life. If you don't think interracial dating is for you, then just accept that it's not for you and leave it be. But slamming people over what they like is just plan...well it's not what you would want right? Because then there will be a pointless argument that could've been avoided altogether.

Well, that's all for now.

Mon