For so long as a kid I was told to "stay in a child's place" and of course having that being said to me was actually hurtful. I use to wonder why. Was it because the ideas of a young person just not worthy?
This bring up something I was watching last night with my sister. It was a video in which young children to young teens watched two separate videos of one person of the same gender proposing to the other person. They're opinions were actually quite nice to hear. I understand that some children speak out of place sometimes, but seriously hushing them from speaking their opinion, what kind of person would that make them into in the future? Wouldn't it be better to have a group of people who actually possess the means to think on their own? I'm not saying that cooperating is not good, it's just that when a child is allowed to flourish and be who they are, they are an individual. And yes, I understand that it's even possible for the child to have views differing from a parent. Yes I understand respecting the parents. I understand that all. But there's this "control" factor that really gets me.
I always think of parents as guardians. They guide, not control someone's life. Giving advice, warnings, and telling a person about how the world truly is, seems much more important to me than telling them what to believe in. It's like putting a blanket over someone's possible personality.
So, what's this all about?
Well, for an online assignment, I have to say I'm actually pretty happy. I often mention how I don't like giving my opinion, or rather, I don't like explaining myself. But somehow, the questions come to me sometimes. Questions from others. And I was given some questions about something I have zero knowledge about, and yet, they still asked me questions lol Why?
Well, I don't necessarily think I'm completely opened to everything. I consider them. When someone provides me with something, I take that and spin it on it's head to get another look at it. In the assignment we were to talk about nuclear power plants. I'd love to hear someone with knowledge talk about them. Then I'd like to talk to someone who's against them, just to hear the varying ideas.
A lot of the students had some very valid reason for liking and disliking what they do.
O__O I think about being a group leader and I realize how hard it is. It's about trying to help everyone, but even I know we can't please the whole world. I think it's about compromising, communicating, listening (and I mean truly listening) and taking into consideration the ideas of others. It's not just about one person, it's about a whole bunch of people with varying ideas and beliefs.
A lot of people take their beliefs seriously. And why should someone else try to take away what they believe because they don't agree with it? The thing is is that it works for them. However, I do draw the line when those beliefs cause someone to harm someone else.
In life, however, there are difficult choices, because not everyone is this way. Some people are pro-survival and will cut you down. What then? Does a person who does not tolerate violence, will they allow this person to cut down their whole group because they don't believe in violence?
And where does it start? I think it starts from the root of the tree. The very beginning. The very basic. I believe there's a way to lower this violence. I think we're both animal like and also very human. But we choose which one we'll be (more of which side we'll be). I definitely believe it starts with the children.From what they see, to what they learn.
I'm not saying not to tell children about violence. I'll tell you one thing, I remember being told "that's not good" without a reason why it's not good! When you tell an older friend "he/she is no good" do you think that person will just buy that? Chances are they'll say something like "why" or "what did they do?" as they need more information than that.
Children are the same! Just because they are tiny doesn't mean anything. They're impressionable (some). They are tiny people learning about the world, but their eyes are wider than the eyes of an adult.
And what's more is that a lot of us based our ideas on judgments and preconceived ideas without any actual facts. This isn't wrong. No, it's actually a human thing. It's to protect us. But I'm constantly reading about how reasoning and research should also be used with "feelings" and "gut feelings". Okay okay. I'll explain. If your gut tells you not to walk down a scary dark alley, then don't do it. That to me, would seem like common sense.
When it comes to people, we can pick up energy on them that just says "they're bad", but here's the thing. I've had people tell me that certain people just aren't right, and yet, the people they're talking about are rarely listened to. You never know how helpful it is to just listen to someone.
Now, the problem I run into is people who want to follow me lol It becomes a problem at this point.I believe it's due to my energy or something. But I would hope they have some form of self-control.
I cannot control someone. The way someone may feel. Anything like that, I cannot do. But I can control what I do or say. I feel that if I provide this to others, it may help in someway. I would just hope they aren't greedy and don't try to force me to be their MAIN FOCUS.
I know those kinds of people exist. We would like to be around something that makes us feel better. The reason I know this is because I experienced it first hand. I was the one who wanted to be around someone who made me feel as if my opinion mattered!
Honestly, I'll be completely honest. It will creep people out!! Understand, if a person is moving on in life, it's not your place to hold them back. They are brought into your life to help you get over a pivotal point. Think of this person as a rescue worker. Once they help you, won't it be better to just thank them. Not every person you meet is suppose to stay in your life forever.
I've come to understand this. And now I don't need that person anymore. I'm grateful, I really am. :) It takes a great deal of believing in yourself to let go. It's kind of like having a caring figure come into your life, take your hand, and help you out. It's difficult to let go because things made sense then. But please know that you are a smart being who has to believe in yourself!
If you make a mistake (which will happen) don't be afraid! Take it one step at a time. You can do it.
You're important, just like everyone else. You matter and so does what you believe.You never know who will agree with you and who you can help, not until you actually speak up.
On another note, please know that there is always a proper way to approach a situation. To make it so it won't go from bad to worse lol use your head sometimes. Not everything needs to be head-butted.
And on that note, I'm going now.
See you in my next blog.
Mon
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