Honesty

Someday I sit and I think "Dang it would be good if I could write my own lyrics!"  I would seriously create an album with songs titled Love, Honesty, Trust, etc.

I'm sure I could, but writing lyrics with meaning is all about being honest with yourself. Well, actually, I've always felt an attachment to those songs where a person is truly pouring their heart out, or wearing their heart on their sleeves. There a sense of connection from me to their music, and those are the songs/musicians that I enjoy listening to.

I think it boils down to truly being honest with yourself. I mean, if you can't be truly honest to yourself, than who can you  be honest with??

When I think about honesty, I think that it's a tough thing to do if we become swayed by the rest of the world telling us that being a certain way is seen as strong. This creates a sense of denial on our end and we unintentional shut ourselves off from who we truly are, in exchange for what society/the media states is "the way". Then we act based on these feelings we cover up in an unconscious way.

Imagine if we were all bottles of soda and we're all in a box. Over time, some sodas start to think "hey! We're not soda! Let's me peanuts" or something else, whatever you choose to be. So, ignoring the fact that it's a soda, and being shaken up in the box, we don't realize that we need to release our bottle cap to in order to get rid of all that excess fizz, but in order to do this, we need to stop claiming to be something besides what we really are.

So instead of being a bottle of soda, we are humans. We are humans who feel.

When a kid starts to imagine that they can be whatever they want, and they feel invincible, and the world looks down on that kid and says "No, you'll have to be __________ instead" eventually the  kid just accepts it, and tries to fit in.

It is often said that we, as humans, enjoy fitting in. Yet our sense of self identification is disrupted. I believe we are connected in the sense that what one chooses to do, can have an effect on someone else, whether they think so or not. Yet, we are also complete independent in the sense that we aren't connected by flesh and we also have individual thoughts as well. Think of it this way, we are all tiny rivers and lakes, but we all connect back to the sea. Even so, we are our own lake or river.

I see this often, a person who is quite a sweetheart, loving and caring, builds up a tough act when talking to friends in order to not seem weak and defenseless. If I'm not mistaken, this is something that humans do as a way to protect themselves, and I understand all too well, but I often find myself thinking "Why? Because we don't want to be exposed?" Well, that's all good and everything, but we may get so into this habit, that we forget how to be honest with ourselves. It's not for the good of others, but for ourselves.

That honesty from to ourselves is not something we have to prove to the world. I'm sure people will notice it. Haven't you ever heard the phrase "that person is so laid back " or "that person is so down to earth", in other words, they aren't afraid to be who they truly are. They are confident in themselves. They are okay with looking like a fool, or saying something foolish because they know that they aren't perfect.

That's not to say that some people don't get the wrong impression, they do. But I'm simply making a point to say that some people are able to sense that kind of thing.

I've been thinking more and more about how I (we) can become more friendly with ourselves. The advice and suggestions I give I would say to myself "take it for yourself as well" so when I say "you're worthy!" I start to to tell myself "and so are you." It would be a waste to give advice to a friend, and yet, not  believe it for yourself, those helpful words. We should be as much of a friend to ourselves as we are to those we love.

One thing I will say, is that I do find it a bit tough to stand away from myself and view a situation objectively. To say "well this situation isn't working for me" due to the love I feel towards those I care about, but it should be done with an honest heart.

Mon